Does the abused become the abuser?

I struggle with intrusive thoughts of becoming like my abuser. Its also a trigger for me when people justify abusers’ actions with “well they were abused too”
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Movie • 2023 Report
Yes
80
No
21
13
Bricoleur
"Abuser" may not be the right word, but Rocket Raccoon takes an immense amount of physical and emotional abuse, then turns on his creator and literally tears his face off.
TV Show • 2014 Report
Yes
33
No
1
7
kars4kids
The whole plot
Movie • 2019 Report
Yes
31
No
2
1
KamiSteele
It's hard to explain without outright giving away the ending, but the gaslighting, love-bombing, drugging, and trauma ultimately culminate in Dani doing a villainous act at the climax and joining the antagonists as one of them. The script directions for the ending imply that she is 'happy,' but only in the sense she has lost her mind.
TV Show • 2018 Report
Yes
27
No
10
4
violetbooklover
Yes- this is the entire premise. Joe grows up in an abusive and neglectful environment from his parents and later by Mooney. He had no healthy example for love and care in his youth.
Movie • 2022 Report
Yes
25
No
3
2
saste12
(Minor spoilers) Victims of the curse are forced to traumatize other people in a similar way, not of their own will but there's an undercurrent of suicide being traumatic to other people.
Movie • 2022 Report
Yes
24
No
5
11
nh17
This deals with themes of generational trauma but it turns out ok in the end
TV Show • 2016 Report
Yes
24
No
0
2
SiRenfield
Billy
Movie • 2018 Report
Yes
23
No
0
4
KamiSteele
It's a major theme of the movie, to the point where one potential interpretation of the title refers to the 'hereditary' nature of dysfunctional families. The film plays heavily into the specific trigger of becoming like your abusers.
Movie • 2022 Report
Yes
21
No
7
1
Main villain describes childhood abuse, was *mistreated by the people he brings to die. *mistreated in his eyes.
TV Show • 2008 Report
Yes
20
No
1
4
Pantalones
The two brother assasins are shown being abused by their uncle Hector when they were kids. One of them is nearly drowned. The brothers eventually grow to become cartel hitmen. It can be argued Walter was treated like crap and belittled by his old boss Bogdan, and later returns the abuse by taking his business and his framed dollar bill.
TV Show • 1997 Report
Yes
19
No
2
1
Ingeborg
Cartman.. His mother is emotional abusive. Also Randy Marsh was abused and is very violent.
TV Show • 2020 Report
Yes
19
No
1
4
R0botanical23
SPOILERS: This is a recurring theme of the show. Notably, we learn than Jamie was/is verbally, emotionally, and physically abused by his father and goes on to abuse others. Nate also is abused by others in season one, and then uses his new position of power to abuse others in season 2.
TV Show • 2011 Report
Yes
18
No
2
3
413X
The main abuser shown in the show is from an extremely abusive household
TV Show • 2005 Report
Yes
17
No
3
1
solace
yeah this is a show about serial killers. but specifically in 10x8 a victim of pedophilia is revealed to be a pedophile himself
Movie • 2022 Report
Yes
17
No
0
TV Show • 2019 Report
Yes
16
No
1
1
mimicamila
nate
Movie Report
Yes
15
No
0
4
Abee
A previously abused and marginalized character takes control of others and abuses her power
TV Show Report
Yes
15
No
0
5
DeenGray
Clay, an abusive dad, was abused by his own dad when he was little
Movie • 2014 Report
Yes
15
No
6
Movie Report
Yes
14
No
10
4
NoAviNK1
if you have a fear of becoming an abuser, beau shares this fear, and is outlined at the end when he is painted as the "real abuser" in the situation
Anime • 2016 Report
Yes
12
No
0
2
roseswiththorns
One of the main themes of this series is the cycle of abuse. This happens with MULTIPLE characters. And these arcs are revealed throughout the entire series. If this is triggering to you, do not watch. It’s a major major theme and is touched upon in nearly every episode. Some cycles include: The original mafia boss abused Kouyou, and she goes on to abuse Kyouka. Mori, the current mafia boss, abused Dazai. Dazai abused Akutagawa. Akutagawa also abused Kyouka. Kyouka manages to escape and put an end to this cycle, as does Dazai, but there are multiple characters who don’t/haven’t yet escaped this cycle, which can be particularly upsetting.
TV Show • 2019 Report
Yes
12
No
0
2
mistersandman
As season 3 progresses, there is increased focus on how a main character has become verbally and physically violent like his abusive father, to the point of saying and doing things exactly the same way his father did them. Another character who speaks about how his father thought he was a disappointment goes on to call his son the same thing as they fight.
TV Show • 2013 Report
Yes
11
No
0
6
Lapis is shown being drawn towards an abusive dynamic with Jasper in which Lapis can subjugate Jasper. She resists it in the end, but the idea of "abused becoming the abuser" seems to be presented uncritically by the show. There are other points where this theme shows up in her dialogue too.
Movie • 2003 Report
Yes
11
No
2
Movie • 2010 Report
Yes
11
No
0
TV Show • 2018 Report
Yes
10
No
1
3
cherry
it’s heavily implied that logan was abused as a child, and he abuses his children and grandchildren
Movie • 1989 Report
Yes
10
No
1
1
JD is raised with a very turbulent childhood and he ends up becoming an abuser.
Anime • 2016 Report
Yes
10
No
0
1
tial
Shigaraki and Dabi, who were abused as children, both become psychotic terrorists who want to destroy and kill everything. Dabi especially wants to torture his own brothers to death despite being emotional support through his abuse
TV Show • 2011 Report
Yes
10
No
1
TV Show • 2010 Report
Yes
9
No
0
1
They show the background of the people terminus who in turn became the people that abused them.